Benefits of the Basket Life: Learning to be a Better Public Speaker

Speaking in front of people has never been a favorite thing of mine, whether it is in front of a crowd or in front of a camera.  I wouldn’t say I struggled a lot with it, but I can remember having to do speeches in high school and college and getting extremely sweaty as my time approached.  I don’t know if anyone likes the sound of their own voice, but I know I am not a huge fan of even hearing it on our home videos.  So when the local television station here wanted to do a story on us, although I was happy to participate, I dreaded the part of them interviewing me.  Joe gets a lot of practice at it, so he is pretty comfortable in front of the camera, but it isn’t something I do very often.  So I decided to view it as an opportunity to work on my public speaking skills.  I figured if I didn’t say more than 10 “um’s” I would consider it a success.

But thankfully, they did the Russian translation right over my voice so you can’t even tell how many “um’s” I said (actually I think I am improving and only said maybe one).  But as I watched the video, one other thing I was thankful for was that we have these videos the kids can look back on and see the many and varied experiences they got to have growing up.  Plus they have something interesting to share with their classes back home!

Those reading in a RSS reader will need to click through to the site to watch the video. Our part starts at 6:07.

Hope everyone has a great start to their week,

Where Has the Time Gone?

My friend Angie is currently going back over the past year in pictures to recount the blessings God has bestowed over the past year. She started in on the project as a way to slow down the month of November a bit. I thought it was such a sweet idea, especially because I have commented to several people as of late that time seems to move faster and faster the more children we have. Sometimes I just look at one of the kids and think “WHEN DID YOU GET SO BIG?”

The older they get, the more precious my time with them is. I feel like God has answered one of the prayers for my own heart lately which is, “Lord, please help me to enjoy my kids. Let them look back on their childhood and remember that their mom delighted in them.”

One way that I delight in them more is by doing what Angie is doing right now: looking back on where they used to be. It makes you realize how quickly time goes by and what precious gifts these young years are. So for my own nostalgia and heart, here are my precious gifts in years past.

Isaiah, one year ago. Even though I still call him my baby, when I look at this picture I realize he isn’t any longer.

Naomi at Isaiah’s current age. You can tell I was pregnant with Isaiah here because Naomi is walking around in only a onesie. I was obviously too tired to bother with clothes that day! I remember wondering if she was ever going to communicate beyond screaming. Now that we call her “walkie talkie” (because if she walkie, she talkie), I know the days of frustration with communication are very short lived.

Abby at Naomi’s current age. Three years old is such a fun age. They are more independent, but still very much into being taken care of. I miss being able to hold this little girl easily in my lap (she still gets lap time, but it isn’t quite as easy as it used to be!)



And finally, my little Elijah man at Naomi’s current age. Look at that little baby face (slight tear in my eye right now). He has grown up so much over the past two years. Thankfully he still loves to cuddle and be held.

Time really does fly by. May you enjoy and delight in the precious gifts in your life today,

Christmas Stuff is Out Already?

Is anyone else a little stunned to see Christmas stuff out before Halloween has even passed? One thing I was excited to see though was this year’s Advent Conspiracy video that my friend Maria sent me. I like to start thinking about Christmas early so we can be purposeful as a family about what we are doing.

Many of you read about the changes we made last Christmas and what a blessing it was to our family.  So we are hoping to do something along the same lines again this year. We are going to be doing gift for Jesus once again, so this year I am cutting out our ornaments that we will decorate with our chosen gifts. There are tons of great ministries you can give through.  Advent Conspiracy teams up with Living Water International. Our friend Tyler has also worked with the organization Wine to Water to raise money for each season he plays. Some of our other favorite minitries to give to are:

Gospel for Asia
Harvest of Hope
Compassion International
Love 146
Show Hope
147 Million Orphans
World Vision

Another fun way to donate if you still want to give a gift is through the stores many of these ministries supply. For example, at Love 146 (a ministry to fight against child sex trafficking, just read here about how they got the name and you will be moved to tears) you can buy t-shirts and other apparel. At 147 Million orphans, you can also buy apparel as well as as book that my friend Angie just recently highly recommended called “Kisses from Katie” where 50% of the proceeds go to Amazima Ministries.

So I am looking forward to the Christmas season.  I am excited to celebrate another year of God’s grace so that we can celebrate the birth of His Son and look forward to His second coming.  I am excited to find creative ways to help the “least of these” enjoy a special holiday season.  And I am excited that to enjoy building these traditions with my children so that one day they can look at Christmas in a way that is different than the cultural norm.

Have a great day everyone,

Relegated from the Dollhouse

The other day Abby was setting her dollhouse up so that it could look like our house as much as possible.  She set up the kitchen, living room, along with the boys’ bedroom and the girls’ bedroom.  Then she showed me where Daddy and Mommy’s room was upstairs, but she only had the Mommy doll laying in the bed.  I asked her where the Daddy was and she said, “He got put back in the doll bag because the bag is the Ukraine where Daddy is.”  Poor Joe, kicked out of the dollhouse into the bag!

Happy Monday everyone!

2011-2012 Season (Part B)

So you all know that Joe was in Italy for a month and that last Monday he got home from that stint.  But in between then and now has been a bit crazy.  Joe agreed to another job Sunday night before flying home and headed off again on Thursday.  So we spent last week trying to run around and letting him get to see the kids’ schools and all their activities.

So where is the Crispin family’s next stop?  Joe is now in Mariupol, Ukraine playing for BC Azovmash.  It was quite a process to get to the point where he got on the plane.  I have to say it was one of the most torn we have ever been on making a job decision.  So here is a quick run down of how we got there:

1. Joe played with Siena against BC Azovmash back on September 4.  About a week later they came and made Joe an offer.  Due to the particulars of that offer, Joe declined it.

2. A week later they came back with an offer and this time what had turned us off from the contract originally was removed and the salary offer was also increased.  So at that point, we knew we needed to think a little more seriously about the offer.

3. We knew that the financial aspect and the basketball opportunity were both positive.  This team plays in a European league, the VTB league (a league of the top eastern European teams) and in the Ukrainian league.  So Joe would get to play a lot and have a vast amount of exposure.

4. On the flip side, we heard nothing nice about the city from those who had played there and since Joe would be playing so much, he would be gone a huge chunk of the time.  It would be more like an NBA type schedule where he has long road trips every other week at least.

5. After we talked about it a bit, I said I thought we should just give it a shot, but Joe was VERY hesitant.  He was concerned about me being on my own and also not thrilled about a new country.  He is very into the Italian lifestyle and not a man of change!  So Joe called his agent and was telling him “no” when his agent mentioned that we could possibly find some Christians there.  I had also told him how when I talked to our associate pastor about it that morning, he had mentioned that finding fellowship there would probably be much easier than in Italy since there are more Christians in Ukraine.  At that moment, Joe realized he was probably making his decision based out of fear and without God in the equation.  He called me back and said he felt like maybe this was something we should try.  I was still on board with experiencing it for a season.  I felt like although it may be difficult in some ways, it is neat to experience different cultures and in the grand scheme of things 6-8 months is not that long of a time.

6. I think this was such a tough decision for the both of us because we both felt that God could be refining us in saying “yes” or “no”.  We both struggle with wanting financial security, so we could see God asking us to say “no” to a big financial increase and a possible career advancement.  But we both also struggle with the idol of comfort and ease as well, so we also felt like God could be asking us to choose the “hard” and strengthen some spiritual muscles through this experience.  In the end, it was a comfort to know that God sovereignly ordains all our decisions so that we couldn’t make a “wrong” one.

7. A couple of things that have been encouraging in making the decision are that 1) another teammate there has a wife and their four children coming in early November.  I have already been in contact with her and am eager to meet her.  Joe is trying to work it out so our apartments are near each other, 2) We have also been in contact with a couple of missionary groups to get us hooked up with some fellowship in our time there, 3) Joe is now there and said that although the city is not the prettiest, we can still make it work.

So that is where we are at right now.  After his European league schedule gets set we will decided when the kids and I will head over to Ukraine (am I the only one who always wants to say THE Ukraine?).  Thank you for all your prayers and encouragement as we embark on another adventure.

Why Do I Have to Learn? A Letter from a Daddy to a Daughter

Last week as we were working through what to do with Abby’s school, one of the biggest areas we saw we needed to clarify was helping Abby to know WHY she needed to learn and go to school. So Joe wrote her a letter that we read together in the morning. It was so rich with wonderful truth that I had to share it. Not only because it can apply to any child who is going to school, but because it spoke into my own life too as to why I work. So today I am sharing that letter with you in hopes that it may inspire you in your area of calling today.

Abby, this morning presents you with another great opportunity to learn and grow and become the best Abby you can be. Your school day is designed to bless you, to help you, and to better equip to you help and bless others to God’s glory. I want to help you better enjoy your school days by reviewing the following truths each morning before you school work begins.

First, God loves to see you at play, but He also loves to see you do good work.

We know you like to play. And we love to watch you play. But we also know that it is very important for you to learn how to do good work. Because God created us to do good work. After creating Adam and Eve, He put them in a Garden to till it and keep it. What that means is that He told them to get to work; good creative work that would bless them and honor the Lord.

Your work right now is your school work. And your school work is designed to help you better develop the abilities God has given you for wisdom and knowledge about Him and His creation. Because of our sin, this work is not easy. But because of what Jesus has done, this work can be done…and it can be done very well. Because He died and rose again for you, you can do great school work today to God’s glory.

Learning how to do good work is a life-long process. But it is a process that begins with school and continues today. Today is a wonderful opportunity for you to do good work to God’s honor by paying good attention, giving good energy, and doing the best you can until you school work is done. To do those things is to do what you were created to do. And that is very good.

Second, you need God’s help to do really good work.

Because your school work today is designed to help you grow and mature, it has to be a little bit difficult for you. It can’t be easy, because if it is easy, you won’t learn and grow the way you want to and the way God’s wants you to. Really, you won’t be happy with such work, because you won’t be doing what God created you to do.

So there will be some difficult things today in school. But that is how God designs things to be, because He wants you to learn to depend upon Him. He wants you to ask for His help, because it is only when you learn to depend upon Him that you can really be strong and do good to work His glory.

We could say that 1 Peter says, ‘whoever [studies], [let him or her study] by the strength that God supplies – in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.’ (1 Peter 4:11).

The Lord wants you to study in His strength to His glory today. And because of Jesus you can do so. So ask for His help anytime. Stop and pray whenever you need to. And know that He will give you the grace to do great school work in His strength to His glory.

Third, because your Mother is also your teacher, you have double motivation to submit to her and honor her by humbly and joyfully doing as she says.

Another opportunity your schooling gives you is the opportunity to learn submission to authority. This is something that does not come easy to any of us, but it is vital for you to learn right here and now, and to grow in every single day. As a child, the Lord is jealous for you to learn how to joyfully submit to your parents and to anyone else He has placed as an authority in your life.

It is difficult for you to humble yourself and to submit to authority because of your sin. But the good news is that your sin has been forgiven because of Jesus. So you can defeat this sin in His strength and humble yourself before the authority the Lord has placed in your life. Because of God’s power in your life, you can control yourself and obey your Mother and Teacher.

In this instance, because your Mother is also your Teacher, she holds a double authority and is therefore, worthy of utmost respect and honor. This is very serious, because to show her contempt or to be disrespectful to her is to dishonor the Lord. God has placed her as the clear authority in your life right now for both home and school. And it is obviously in your highest interest to honor her by listening to her and doing what she says with a happy heart.

Take this very seriously Abby. And remember that your Mother as your Teacher is seeking your best interest. Teaching is not easy for her. She is serving you, doing her best to help you become the best Abby you can be. Help her. Bless her. Honor her. By doing the best you can in God’s strength.

Fourth, do your schoolwork with a whole heart and a great focus in order to honor the Lord and to receive rewards from His hand.

God is very interested in how you do your schoolwork. And He delights to bless you best efforts. He commands you to work heartily for Him today, and promises to bless you as you do so. Colossians 3:23-24 says,

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

Believe it or not, your school day today is a wonderful opportunity to honor the Lord and receive blessing from His hand. To exercise self-discipline and to work heartily is to serve the Lord by better reflecting Him in His creativity and wisdom.

Because of that, make sure you keep your eyes on Him. Sure, you want to honor your Mother and Teacher. Sure, you want to move through the school day efficiently, so you can have more time to play. But those aren’t motivation enough to be great at school today. Only the glory of God is motivating enough to help you exercise self-control and to pursue greatness in your academic studies. So look to Him and ask Him for help to work heartily to His glory. Ask Him to bless your efforts and to help you reflect Him by being the best student you can be.

We love you Abby and we want you to become the best Abby you can be. One part of that – a big part actually – is your schooling, your studies. Right now it will take up a big part of your day. But that is a good thing for you. A great thing actually, because it holds numerous opportunities for you to honor the Lord by doing good work in His strength.

Having said all of that, I want to make one final, very-important point before you start your school day.

Fifth, remember, always remember that no matter how well you perform today or how poorly you perform today, you are loved and delighted in by your Heavenly Father because of who Jesus is for you and what Jesus has done for you.

Yes, God wants you to do good work. He wants you to honor your Mother and Teacher and work heartily for Him. But He also really wants you to know that no matter how well or how poorly you do, He loves you. He delights in you. And He delights in your efforts to honor Him in the school work you do. If you mess up and sin in laziness or in a poor attitude, He is quick to forgive you because of Jesus. You can move forward. You don’t have to beat yourself up or to think negative thoughts. You can be happy and know joy and move forward with the day in the forgiveness and acceptance that is yours in Jesus.

And you know, even if you do great today. Even if you have the best day you have ever had in school, He also wants you to remember that His love for you and delight in you is no higher than it would be if you had the worst of days. What you do doesn’t matter in that sense, because you are His no matter what.

The Lord (and your Daddy and Mommy) want you to thrive as a student today not so much you can please us or so you can be loved more by us or by Him. That’s can’t be, because we love you no matter what. And He loves you more. No. We want you to thrive today, so you can thrive and know greater joy and becoming a greater blessing to the world and to your Creator. There is nothing more important that remembering that.

May He bless your labors today. And may you embrace today as an opportunity to work in a way that serves others and honors Him. And may you always remember that no matter how well you do or how poorly you do, you are loved the same because of your Savior, Jesus Christ.

I love you my little Boo. Have a great day today.  Love,
Daddy

Thankful for my husband who bathes us all in the rich truth of the Word and prayer,

Off to School She Goes

Last week was the start of the school year for Abby with Connections Academy. I had posted before about how we had decided to do an online charter school with her because I wasn’t up for bearing the brunt of homeschooling her with 3 other children, but I also wanted to give her some more consistency rather than putting her in a different international school each year. So for first grade and second grade, I had used Connections Academy (in kindergarten I homeschooled her in the afternoon after she came home from Turkish preschool). So this year, I was all set to dig into Connections Academy once again with her for third grade.

I had been prepping Abby for the beginning of the school year, but was hearing a lot of complaining. I tried to get her excited and remind her of some of the reasons why we learn and participate in school. But by the time I started last week, I was already pretty tired of trying to motivate. We started off school on Tuesday and got through the first day pretty well. By Wednesday I was seeing that having 3 other active children (two of whom I would be taking to preschool on a few mornings) and being on my own was going to make being Abby’s teacher really difficult. She was challenging me on almost every front and I was having a hard time keeping it all together. By the time Thursday rolled around, I was sick to my stomach and didn’t even feel like attempting to do her school work that day. But we got started and things quickly went from bad to worse. Before I knew it I was screaming at her and storming off. I sat down in a chair and thought, “How in the world did we get here? This is not how I want my relationship with Abby to be.”

So I called Joe crying and we started to talk through some things. The more we talked, the more I realized it would be best for Abby to be in school. Here were some of our considerations:

1. This season was different than other seasons because even if Joe had signed a full year contract, we had already decided I would stay back for 4-6 weeks with the kids in order for them to enjoy some fall activities. So in the past, we would have already been overseas with Joe by the time school got under way.

2. Abby really has no idea what is required of most children in terms of school. She has been to preschool, but that has always been in a foreign country where she isn’t required to do much in terms of routine. So when she would battle me on simply numbering her paper, I knew it was a battle she would have never gone into with a teacher. She felt like doing school with me was something of an inconvenience to her and something that I was just requiring her to do to mess up her fun time at home. Even when we explained things to her, she didn’t fully “get” it.

3. Abby is a social girl. She loves being around other kids and whenever I brought up the subject of going to school she got pretty excited. Her only hold-up was wanting to be home to see Isaiah during the day!

4. The other 3 kids require much more time this year than they did last year when Isaiah was sleeping much of the time. I was really feeling badly about not being able to be a mom to them because the majority of my day was spent schooling Abby. In reality, I felt like I was having to be everything to all the kids all the time and I just couldn’t do it. We basket wives have that pressure a lot during the season when we are off on our own, so to be feeling it when I was in the U.S. didn’t make much sense.

5. I knew of other basket wives who had put their children in school for 6 weeks, pulled them out and gone overseas and then put them back in school for the last month or so and it had worked fine.

So by Friday, Joe and I had decided to withdraw Abby from Connections and to talk to State College School District about whether or not we could enroll her. I was beating myself up over not having thought of this three months ago, but figured kids move into the district at all times during the year so it was worth looking into it. So after calling the registration office and hearing that State College had a “suitcase curriculum” I started to feel even better about enrolling Abby. Then I heard from another mom in our church whose daughter attends the elementary school that Abby would attend that the principal is a Christian and a great guy. So I e-mailed him and he got back to me quickly to let me know that they could certainly work with Abby and our situation. So I decided on Monday I would go and enroll Abby.

So Monday, my friend watched the other 3 kids, and I took Abby in to enroll her. I had all the paperwork filled out and the woman there was very nice. She took all of the materials from me and said she would call and see about when Abby could start. So she got the principal on the phone and we spoke about Abby’s placement. He mentioned a blended 1st and 2nd grade class that might go well for her since this would be her first time in a school setting. I said that sounded good but that she was actually a year ahead when she was doing the charter school, so although we were no enrolling her in 2nd grade (for emotional and social maturity) the blended class might not be the best fit. He said no problem and suggested we do some testing to see where she might fit best. So he told me he would call me when he found out when she could come in to be tested.

About 15 minutes later as I was picking up the other 3 kids, I got a call and the principal said I could come in any time that day, but if right then would work they could see Abby. So I took all the kids over to her new elementary school. We got a warm welcome from the secretary and then met a resource teacher who gave us a little tour and then took Abby other room for testing. While she was being tested, she walked the other kids and I around the school to show us where Elijah would be next year and gave them all some time to play in a kindergarten play area. Abby was then done testing and I talked to the teacher about her results. He said he would share them with the principal and figure out what the best classroom was for her.

We headed home and just as I was getting lunch ready, the principal called again and said that Abby tested advanced so they would put her in the 2nd grade classroom with a couple of other advanced children they have. He said he would talk to everyone that day and have her desk and everything set to go tomorrow!

This morning I drove Abby into school, we met the principal in person and went into her class to met her teacher and teacher’s helpers. Abby went right in and got hooked up with another little girl who showed her where to put her things. We tried saying good-bye a few minutes later, but she was already engrossed in everything and didn’t even hear us.

This was such a good lesson of knowing that as the kids grow and change, we will always need to be evaluating what will work best for everyone in the family. Just as it is with constantly changing out clothes out of the kids’ closet, I need to be aware of how their needs are changing not just physically, but mentally, emotionally and socially as well.

It was also a reminder that it is ok for me not to be able to “do it all”. I know there are homeschooling moms who have 4-5 kids at home and they all get a great education, but I felt like I had reached my limit. At some point something needed to give and I didn’t want it to be the joy in Abby or my relationships with the others. They are only young once.

So that is where we are with school at this point now and how we got there (very quickly in fact). I know not to the think that this will be the permanent solution for all the kids, but for right now it definitely seems to be the good one for our family.

End of Summer

It is officially the last day of summer for the Crispin Family since school starts tomorrow. It has been an enjoyable one with lots of fun squeezed in ;) The summer time is always one where a basketball family has to get all they would normally do throughout the course of the year into three months, so he is what we managed to do this summer:

- Week of Crispin Basketball Camp in New Jersey where we visited family and friends
- Week with my parents with lots of activities
- Week at Ocean City, New Jersey with the extended Crispin family
- Time away for just Joe and I in Washington D.C., along with about 6 date times out
- Lots of health appointments (5 child well-checks, 2 adult well-checks, 4 dentist appointments, 2 eye appointments, 1 OB/GYN appointment, 3 chiropractic appointments, 2 podiatrist appointments)
- Multiple trips to the park and pool
- Lots of bike riding, running through sprinklers, drawing with chalk, teaching the kids to play hopscotch, blowing bubbles, playing wiffle ball, etc.
- Two trips to the movie theatre along with various family movie nights
- Getting plugged into a new church and small group and making friends in State College
- Fun activities around State College: a couple of State College Spikes Games, trips to Meyer Dairy for ice cream, visiting the Arboretum and Creamery on PSU campus, seeing the women’s soccer Blue/White game, story times at the library and Barnes and Noble
- First season of t-ball, gymnastics classes and 2 gymnastic camps, basketball and soccer camp and signed up for a soccer season here in the fall

So much to be thankful for this summer (along with all I am forgetting). I hope everyone had a wonderful summer and many blessings on a wonderful start to the fall,

Ten Years Ago He Asked Me to Marry Him

Ten years ago today, a shaky-handed 22 year-old Joe Crispin got down on his knee and asked me to marry him.  It doesn’t take much consideration to rank that day as one of the best days of my life. But thankfully I can say that although it was a wonderful day, the days have gotten sweeter as the years have gone on.

Covenant marriage has shown me as much of my sinful nature and tendencies as about anything else in this life.  Little did I know on that day of bliss that the next 10 years would show me the depth of both of our sin in ways I could barely even imagine.  I had no idea we would have 4 children in the matter of 7 years.  I had no idea we would move at least twice a year and live in 6 countries and at least 13 cities over the next decade.  I had no idea that we would be out of community for much of our lives, trying to figure out life, marriage and parenting much on our own in foreign countries.  I had no idea how I would laugh, cry, scream and want to just give up at times.  But I would not change one single moment of it all.

The last ten years have brought me to my knees and showed me that I am a sinner in deeply need of a Savior every single day.  And even now I am completely unaware of much sin that lies within me.  But I have been blessed with an incredible man to go on the journey of life with, who though has seen me at my worst, continues to love me and cherish me the best he can every single day.  It hasn’t always been pretty (and maybe could be classified as ugly a  lot of the times), but God has been faithful to show us more of Jesus as we have walked together these last 10 years.  There has been plenty of stumbling, but God has held us up by His righteous right hand.  He is the only rock and refuge that has brought us through the last decade and I am ever grateful for His mercy and grace to two sinners who often lose sight of how incredibly loving and kind He is.

Today I thank God for His unending mercy towards us because I know apart from Him we would not have made it these past 10 years.  I thank Joe for loving me and showing me more and more of the gospel of grace every single day.  And I thank our dear friends who pray for us and encourage us as we strive to walk through life together.

2011-2012 Season

So the big question has been of the summer (“Where are you going?”) has not been answered on here yet.  The international basketball market has been very different this year due to the pending NBA lockout and more budget cuts by teams as the economy around the world continues to struggle.  As the summer has gone on there haven’t been any opportunities that Joe has felt would be beneficial to our family or his career.  So we were ready to just wait around to see if the mid-season changes that a majority of the clubs go through would bring any desirable jobs.

But then last week Joe’s agent told him that Montepaschi Siena, one of the top clubs in Italy and all of Europe, was looking for a point guard to fill in some time while their starting point guard was with the Macedonian national team.  Although it isn’t a great money scenario, basketball wise it is a great opportunity.  He will be there for about a month and hopefully this situation will open up some more opportunities for the future.

This is a totally new situation for us as a family, but this isn’t surprising to me.  Joe’s career has not been one that would be described as neat and organized.  Some players spend their whole career in the same league, but Joe has played in the NBA, 3 different minor leagues in the U.S. and 5 different international countries in 8 cities.  He has played full seasons and half seasons.  So now he is adding another interesting aspect to his resume.

We are thankful for this opportunity he has and I will keep you updated on where the professional basketball world may take us next!