Quote of the Day: April 11, 2012

When we are “in love” with someone we often appear to attend to our beloved when in fact we are doing the very opposite.  Instead of being attentive we are acquisitive.  We use the other for our own glorification, we bask in the presence of our beloved because we enjoy the image of ourselves that is reflected back….This is the opposite of Christian love.  The opposite is all about me.  Even idolizing my beloved- Certainly a danger for the newly infatuated- is all about me, though it pretends to be all about the other, it is all about me because it does not take my beloved seriously as a person created and redeemed by God but rather imagines him to be perfect, heroic, sublime, and customized to meet my needs

Lauren Winner in “The Countercultural Path” p.38 as quoted in Timothy Keller’s “The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God” p.213-214